In the past, the rules around clothes to wear to a funeral were quite clear, with formal black attire being the expected choice. While black and formal clothing are still considered safe and respectful, many families today are also comfortable with a more relaxed funeral dress code. Business casual is now one of the most common choices when deciding on clothes to wear to a funeral.
There are also many funeral and memorial services where specific colours or attire is worn to commemorate the person who has passed. This could be a favourite sports jersey or a colour that corresponds with awareness for a particular cause or disease. If this is the case for the service you are attending, this information will usually be included in the obituary or shared with those anticipated to attend by the family.
Though there are many exceptions to the rules on funeral dress code these days, there are still some simple do’s and don’ts that will help you to ensure that you are dressing appropriately and respectfully.
Do
- Wear formal or business casual attire
- Unless otherwise specified, dark coloured clothing is the safest choice
- Avoid noisy and ostentatious jewelry
- Choose weather appropriate footwear if you will be outside during any part of the service
- Consider the deceased and their family to get a sense of what might be the right choice
- Consider the venue where the service is being held. A church, funeral home, restaurant or beach will all suggest different attire options
- Consider the culture of the family hosting the funeral. Some Asian cultures prefer white and in some African cultures, red and black are the norm. If the funeral is for someone with a distinct cultural background, it is perfectly acceptable to ask a family member if there is preferred attire.
- Opt for jeans only if they would be considered business casual to the other attendees. If you are unsure at all, opt for dress pants or slacks
- Ask if you are unsure of a choice that you worry will offend
Don’t
- Wear overly casual clothing such as athletic wear, sandals or t-shirts (unless requested)
- Wear bright, bold coloured clothing or wild prints (unless requested)
- Choose clothes you might wear to a party. This includes sparkly or revealing clothing
- Wear high heels to a cemetery interment
- Overdo it with fragrances. It’s a good idea to avoid them entirely in case they were to cause an allergic reaction for another guest
- Assume you should veer from safe choices (dark & formal/business attire) unless you know the family well or have been specifically requested to do so
When deciding on clothes to wear to a funeral, it is always best to choose respectful and modest attire. Although everyday fashion has become more casual, funerals are formal and meaningful occasions where clothing should reflect sympathy and respect. Avoid bold, overly casual, or revealing outfits, and instead wear something appropriate that helps keep the attention on honoring the person’s life and supporting their family.
You can find more information on common funeral questions in our FAQ’s section.